“Loner”- a person who is or prefers to be alone, especially one who avoids the company of others.
So many people call themselves loners. I used to claim the title too. I used to like it because I didn’t want anyone else disagreeing with me or causing any type of disruption in what I was doing. I was just trying to do me. Why did I need other people telling me what to do, especially when they didn’t pay my bills. I just wanted to stay in my bubble. I was happy there.
One thing that I used to throw out was the fact that I was an introvert. Don’t get me wrong, being an introvert is a real thing, but that does not equate to a loner. An introvert is someone who feels drained after a period of socializing and feels energized by spending time alone. So, one could very well be an introvert and still be in community with others. When I look at the reasons why I liked being a loner, they all stem back to pride. I took pride in not needing anyone else. I was able to justify whatever I wanted without anyone in my ear telling me otherwise. Stephanie was always right. Even if I wasn’t, who was going to check me? I even wallowed in pain alone. It was hard to see other people doing well when I wasn’t. It felt as if they were rubbing their success in my face when I was down. You think you know yourself the best when you’re a loner, but other people will point out things that you cannot see. They act as a mirror. Just think, you don’t really know what you look like until something outside of yourself is used to show you.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two People are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But one who falls alone is in real trouble.”
Life is truly better together. We must get past the initial discomfort of being wrong. It’s embarrassing to admit that you are wrong. It’s hard to admit that you are not some superhuman that can do all things alone. Yes, there may be seasons when you spend more time alone, but this should not be a lifetime of seclusion. When you do humble yourself and realize that we were made to do life together, you should begin to pray that God does send the right people. Like my friends and I say, if you’re going up, I’m going up with you! If one of us is down, we pull the other one up. In all honesty, there are some people who don’t want you to succeed, there are people who don’t want you doing “better” than them. But when you are surrounded by the right people, you will begin to make each other better.
Proverbs 27:17- “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”
I challenge you to get connected today. Get out of your comfort zone. Ask God to send the right people your way.
Speaking of getting connected, join us, this week, as we kick start our fall semester of small groups at Impact Church of Savannah. If you’re reading this and you’re in the Savannah area, check out our small groups at http://www.impactsavannah.com. Click on next steps and then hit small groups. You don’t have to be a member to join. There are so many groups including marriage, youth, deliverance, fitness, bible study and more!
Happy Monday and Happy connecting!